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Q:I think the person asking if menstrual cups can make you loose, meant can they make your vagina bigger/looser and not as tight. As far as I know they don't affect the loose-ness/tight-ness of the vagina at all. But if they're worried they can make their vagina tighter by doing kegel exercises.
Q:I'm scared to use a tampon for the first time! Any tips?
Hey there anon,
Don’t be scared! Using a tampon is nothing to worry about—the most important thing is to relax and take your time. Don’t get discouraged if you can’t get it right on the first try. Trust your body— stop if the tampon feels uncomfortable or if it starts to hurt!
We wrote up a whole post on using tampons for the first time. Check out our FAQ page for a video and step-by-step instructions for first-timers!
[EDIT: here’s the link for the tampon troubleshooting manual. check it out!]
Q:can using menstrual cups make you loose? i mean for like sexual intercourse and stuff.
Hmm. The muscles of your vagina are pretty elastic. A menstrual cup is rather small compared to something like a baby’s skull, so it definitely won’t stretch things out of proportion.
If you need to be “looser” during sexual intercourse, what about trying some of the relaxation techniques that you use while inserting tampons and menstrual cups? It might help if you and your partner take things slow, use lube or switch positions.
Q:What are your thoughts on sea sponge tampons?
I’ve never tried a sea sponge tampon, but I’d really like to! Sea sponge tampons are quite ancient: people with pussies have been using them to apply medications and contain menstrual fluid and as spermicidal barriers for millennia.
Like any other reusable menstrual product, it’s important to clean your sea sponge properly by boiling it in water for 5-10 minutes to kill bacteria and remove any remaining menstrual fluid. (You can do this at the end of your period after cleaning it with soap and water.)
Check out the Menstruation of Menstruation’s website here. (There are photos of old menstrual sponges from the early 1900s and links to companies that harvest and sell sea sponge tampons for our use!)
Q:hello, i had sex last thursday and although we used protection, today i started noticing possible signs of pregnancy. i'm incredibly worried and as rarely keep track of periods i don't know if i'm late or not. do you know how soon signs of pregnancy show and if there are any medical ways of terminating a pregnancy other than the morning after pill as it doesn't work beyond 72 hours. also if it comes to it (which i'm hoping it doesn't) what would your opinions on abortion be? x
The quickest way you can figure out if you’re pregnant is by having a pregnancy test.
I hope you don’t think that I’m deflecting the part of your question about abortions, but here’s what I think:
[note: my views are not representative of IJP’s “official” stance on abortion. I really, really don’t want to turn this post into a political discussion, but if any of ya’ll out there have intelligent, coherent questions about how I feel about the topic, feel free to message me.]
Deciding to have an abortion is a decision about your body that you must make for yourself. While your friends, family, significant other, and your faith/religious group may influence the decisions that you make about your body and your sexuality, I firmly believe that terminating a pregnancy is, ultimately, a decision that YOU have to make about your own body. No one else can make that choice for you, and no one has the right to make you feel ashamed about your choice.
If you’re in the US, you can take advantage of low-cost family planning services at a Planned Parenthood clinic near you.
Take care, Anon,
Q:My period is late but I know I'm not pregnant. It's starting to scare me since I've never been late before. Plus, I've been severely stressed out, so could that have something to do with it? I was supposed to start a couple days ago.
Hi there, Anon!
Did you have your first period a couple of years ago? It’s not uncommon to have irregular periods for the first couple of years that you start menstruating. It wouldn’t hurt to have a pregnancy test if you’ve had intercourse lately (especially if you’ve had unprotected sex).
Yes, stress can definitely delay your period—and, not to mention, can take a toll on your health! Find some time for yourself, learn to manage your time a bit better, free up your schedule, and work some quiet, relaxing activities into your day—do whatever it takes to help decrease your stress level. Trust me…it’ll do wonders for your peace of mind!
Mostly relevant to American voters. It’s election season, and things like sex education, reproductive justice, and LGBTQ+ and women’s rights are seriously hot topics on the ballot right now.
Korean poster which has been making it’s way around
Protesting sexual harassment and violence against women
ETIQUETTE FOR MEN AT NIGHT
- Remember that your presence can be threatening to women walking alone at night
- If a woman is walking in front of you alone at night, slow down. You walking quickly or speeding up can be and in most cases is threatening
- If you’ve been drinking and are drunk, go straight home.
- Do not pick a fight or aggravate women walking at night
- Do not take off your clothes or publicly urinate
- Be careful to make sure you do not touch or hit someone, even on accident.
- If, late at night, you come to a situation in which you and a woman have to ride an elevator together, let her go up first and wait for the elevator to come back down.
- If there’s a woman in a public restroom (There are Korean public restrooms with no gender or sex markings that are open to all people), wait for her to finish and come out first before using the restroom.
- Report broken streetlights to the police
- Tell other men about these rules and that they have a responsibility to not threaten women walking at night
Q:okay in the end of my second week of pills i missed a couple, taking two they day after kind of deal. i missed another one and before i noticed i started spotting. i continued to take my pills normally after that being careful not to miss any but my spotting basically turned into a light period and my cramps were unbearable. its literally like im pregnant with a couple razor blades. should i stop taking my pills or what? btw im a virgin.
The pills contain hormones, so your body adjusts to them and ‘expects’ them. If you skip some, your body starts going WHAT ARE YOU DOING YOU DID NOT GIVE ME MY HORMONES DAMMIT and will sometimes get a bit irregular. It should go back to normal soon. What you described is always what happens to me if I miss pills.
Q:Hi. This is my second week on birth control pills and I am experiencing bleeding though its not time for my period yet and its making me feel worried. How long is this suposse to last? like what is normal?
It takes your body a while to adjust to being on birth control. It took me about three months to adjust fully to it; in the mean time I had sporadic bleeding and irregular periods. Don’t worry.