Anonymous asked: Is it okay to throw away a tampon (not the plastic applicator) in the toilet?
Well, I just looked it up for the first time ever, and the general consensus is that it’s not great to flush tampons. However, I always DID flush them and I’ve never had a problem.
Now I use a diva cup so I don’t have to deal with disposing the cotton.
You absolutely shouldn’t flush them if you have a septic tank system though!
Anonymous asked: Bleeding anon: see a doctor. If it comes up you can always say youve been spotting to your mom and blame BC. Speaking of which some people are prone to spotting after sex that could be it (a new BC is the fix). You should also try some lube too...
Aw shoot, I didn’t even think of that…! It could be spotting!
I spotted for a few months straight during the year I was on oral hormonal contraceptives.
Original Anon, you could definitely tell your mom it’s spotting and that’s why you need a doc. And it could be the problem too!
Lube is also good too! I forgot to add that in there. H2O Jo is my favorite brand. Go with water based, always!
(Many thanks to this Anon!)
Anonymous asked: I lost my v-card a month ago and have been very sexually active since, and lately after sex I bleed. My hymen isn't intact anymore so I know it's not that . I've been on oral birth control for over a year now and I read that sometimes the pill can soften the cervix, causing bleeding. We were both virgins and we always use a condom except for once and he didnt cum inside. I can't go to a doc because my mom doesn't know I have sex (I'm 17). Advice/help?? I'm scared that somethings wrong.. :(
Hey! Okey dokey. This is a tough one. What I would honestly suggest is that you still see a doctor anyways. You had a doctor prescribe you the pill, right? Or did you go to a health clinic? Either way, find a way to see and talk to a doctor of some sort.
I don’t necessarily think it’s a problem with STDs, so you should be ok on that front, and telling your mom you need to see the doc shouldn’t entail you disclosing your sexual activity.
As for going to the doctor…. I am fairly sure that there should be some degree of confidentiality between you and your doctor, although I am not familiar with all the laws in place. I would still see the doctor, and ask them to put a flag in your file on the information about your sex life and have it note that this may not be disclosed with anyone.
If the confidentiality laws don’t technically cover you because you are 17, you may still be able to talk to your doc about it and keep that info private.
The only thing would be if they order STD tests and the charges go to your mom’s account/the claims are sent to her and she sees. In which case, you could ask that the testing not be done, OR you could go somewhere such as planned parenthood and have them done more discreetly. (As I said early—I don’t know if there would be any reason to test).
To approach your mom about the doctor appointment, I would just honestly say to her that you are having some concerns regarding the pill you are on and a side effect that is embarrassing for you that you’d rather not talk about to her, but would like to see a doctor about.
Now, my advice in the mean time is to try and pinpoint what conditions cause the bleeding. Is it every time or only sometimes that it happens when you have penetrative sex? Only during penetrative sex w/ a penis or during other types of sex (grinding, fingering, oral sex, etc)? Does it happen when you masturbate? Does it only happen after really rough sex? And where is the blood coming from as best you can tell? From the cervix? From the vagina? From the opening? Is there any other weird pain associated with it?
If you can pinpoint a cause, you might be able to avoid causing the bleeding until you can see a doctor.
But seriously, that is my number one advice—I am not a medical professional in any way shape or form and this isn’t something I can do much more on!
(I can also give you more tips on dealing with your mom if need be.)
Anonymous asked: Why does it seem like when I use tampons my periods seem lighter than using pads? Is this normal or is this because the blood is being soaked because of the tampon
Some people do report heavier or lighter flows depending on the product. I don’t know about science behind it, but part of it could definitely be how the flow is being absorbed!
Anonymous asked: Can going to the gynecologist help make tampon insertion easier. This may sound weird but with my permission, if I was to ask them to insert a tampon so I can know how to do it myself are they allowed to do so. I know practice makes perfect but this seems like the last resort
(Not sure if you are one of my previous tampon Anons—if you aren’t here is a guide that I did to help make tampon insertion easier!)
I would definitely think you could go to a gyno about trouble inserting tampons! I don’t see why you couldn’t. :) I would just try everything possible first, because doctor visits can be kind of expensive.
Best period-related ad ever? Best period-related ad ever.
It’s actually the worst period-related ad ever.
Not sure which rock these people grew up under, but it’s a known fact that women, or rather girls in this case, shouldn’t even be using tampons. It won’t hurt them, of course not, but OB-GYNS say you shouldn’t use them until you’ve had your first sexual experience. To be more specific: If you want your hymen to stay intact, don’t use a freaking tampon.
And how old is that girl again?! 11… 12, maybe?!… Yeah she’s not supposed to stick anything up her vagina at that age.
This ad is just too wrong on too many levels for my liking.
Hold the phone. Listen here, fuckwit, how about you shut up and learn something about female anatomy before you go spouting off and making a fool of your damn self. The only reason doctors sometimes tell younger girls to wait to use tampons is that middle-school aged girls often aren’t responsible enough to remember to take out their tampons on time and not give themselves TSS.
And this irresponsible ass-hattery you’re pulling about the hymen? It’s a thin, elastic ring of tissue just inside the vagina. I repeat: A RING. You know what fucking rings have? Holes in the middle, shit-for-brains. If it wasn’t a ring, didn’t have a hole, how the fucking fuck did you think females had periods in the first place?! For almost all females, you can go right ahead and stick whatever the fuck you want up there—tampons, fingers, penises, cucumbers, glittery purple dildos, popsicles, what the christing fuck ever—and as long as you’re gentle and stretch it out slowly, your hymen will never tear. Or “pop”, if we’re using the fucked up misogynistic term for a god-awfully mistunderstood part of the female body.
Pull your head lout of your goddamn colon and learn a thing or two before you go fucking up a perfectly good post with you patriarchal-brainwashed bullshit. Please and thank you.
OH YES IT GOT BETTER
*people who have vaginas
cuz let’s be real not everyone who has a vagina is a woman/female ok?
other than that
(I would also like to remind, though, that many vagina-havers did experience tearing at the time of first penetration because they didn’t know that they needed to be gentle or careful)
YES! You can totally masturbate on your period.
“How do i masturbate while I’m on my period? Help, I’m so freakin’ horny!”
“Is it OK to masturbate during your period? I get constant urges but I feel like it can’t good…”
It’s not bad for you, or unsafe, or dangerous.
It’s your own personal choice, but you can definitely just masturbate like normal! If you rub your clit, there isn’t really much/any mess to speak of, especially if you use tampons.
If you have something you can use as lube (or just use your saliva!) you don’t even need to dip your fingers any further down south than necessary. And if you have a scrappy old towel lying around you can just put that under you if you’re worried. Or, just have some fun while you’re in the shower ;)
Even if there’s a little blood, remember your entire body is full of that stuff! It’s not a poison or dangerous or necessarily gross, it’s the stuff that keeps you walking around and having a nice time. And it’s nothing a wet wipe and washing your hands won’t sort out in like ten seconds after you’re done.
Periods kinda suck, so don’t feel you have to DENY YOURSELF ALL PLEASURE at the same time. Horniness can be really frustrating, getting off feels really good, and you deserve all the amazing orgasms you want, no matter what time of the month it is.
Some girls even say climaxes help ease their cramps, although at least one person wrote to say they make hers worse. And because your cycle can affect your arousal and stuff, some girls find sexual pleasure even more intense during their period…
“Is it normal to have stronger orgasms while on your period? I just had two of the BEST orgasms, and I just started my period.”
And some find it harder to get off.
“I get really really super horny during my period, but no matter what I do I can never actually reach orgasm! It’s fine for me normally, it’s just at that ‘time of the month’ that I can’t ever *quite* get there. It’s so frustrating!”
So it goes. Anyway, if it’s not for you ‘cos you just find the idea really icky, that’s fine too! Lots of people feel that way. But you don’t need to spend days every month as a little angry ball of sexual frustration if you don’t want to :)
Who has tried them? Who likes them and why? Which is better if you’ve tried both and why?
I am tempted to try them out.
I just recently got a diva cup and tried it out, and I loved it!
It was really comfy, and easy to use (for the most part). :) The stem was a little annoying but I’m probably gonna snip it off. It was way easier than a tampon…. And one of the coolest parts about it (besides not having to take it out more than twice a day) was that when my period was ending, I could wear the cup and I didn’t have that awkward dry-vagina-pulling sensation (like when you are pulling out a tampon and it’s too dry).
It was great!
Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a little nervous to ask this, but I've had my period since I was 9, and at 13 I want to try using tampons, sinc I'd like to go swimming and all that jazz in the summer. I'm just really really scared to, all my friends are telling me stories of how much it hurts, and it's uncomfortable. Yet I hear stories about others who find tampons these blessings from above. How do I know if it's deep enough? Heck, how do I get it in? Sorry if this seems silly! Thanks!
Hey! The first thing I’m gonna do, is direct you to my Tampon Troubleshooting Manual! I wrote it about a year ago, but it’s still relevant.
The second thing I’m gonna do, is tell you that everyone has a different experience with tampons. Some people hate them. Some people love them. Some people find them uncomfortable. Some people find them a blessing. I, for one, LOVE tampons (although I recently switched to a menstrual cup, which I love even more). But I have friends who hate them.
Don’t be scared, just relax and give it a shot. And if it’s not perfect on your first try, or you don’t like it, and have to stop, do so! You don’t HAVE to love tampons on the first try.
As for your friends… If you are comfortable passing this advice along, tell them that it’s very possible they aren’t inserting the tampons far enough. It can be uncomfortable if the tampon is not in all the way!
Good luck Anon! Give my guide a shot, and then come ask me if you have any more questions. <3