Q:(6th grade anon) I actually did go home and sob to my mother, but she was very calm and after that it wasn't so bad. There was just a LOT of blood, and I was very grateful to have a sweatshirt to tie around my waist that day.
Anonymous
Awwwww!!!! :) And hey, bright side, you got cake and ice cream, I bet… not bad munchy foods to have around for your period….!
I can see where all the blood would freak you out, and it’s certainly good luck that you had a sweatshirt. c:
-M
There are a variety of vibrator apps for your iPhone.
I am just about dying right now. I’ve already downloaded three to try. Expect reviews. Expect them.
-M
Q:Your blog really helped me fuel my search for a menstrual cup. All of the people who use them kept hounding me about the Diva Cup but with your resources I finally settled on a brand that is better suited to my measurements. Thank you so much for all of your resources! :)
:D WOOHOO! I am so glad that our resources were able to help you! I’m so glad WE found all the resources so we could share.
Seriously this just lit up my whole afternoon. c:
-M
Q:I had my first period when I was 13. I was at a camp. With some crazy luck I had taken with me some pads we had been shared at school at some point. I was supposed to sleep in the same room with my brother and he was pestering me until I started to cry and complained to the adults there until they moved me to sleep in their room. I felt it was unfair for it felt like they were punishing me, since they moved me and not my brother. I am sometimes a bit oversensitive when menstruating. :P
That’s good luck for ya’! :o So many people are unprepared for it!
Aw! This is another story that makes my heart all fuzzy… Little ones being upset by their periods….! Except this sounds like a case of PMS. I bet your brother just didn’t get it. c:
My little sister totally didn’t understand why I wanted to curl into a ball and cry on my first period… She wanted to play and stuff. I hid my pads in my mom’s trash so she wouldn’t know.
-M
We would really appreciate it…
If our trans* followers could submit us good, non-gendering words for genitalia (along the lines of differentiating between the “innies” and the “outies”).
We would like to compile a list to put into our resources/FAQ, and have some better words on hand to use ourselves. Please send to our ask box, or submit box, and let us know if you would like credit. :)
-M
Q:I think that I got really lucky with my first period. My house was one of many in a court built around the car park, my best friend lived across the court from me when she was staying with her dad at weekends. Her and her dad were around mine visiting me and my parents and I was hanging out with my best friend when I went to the toilet and noticed. I told my friend and since she had already started she ran across the court to hers and got me a pad. Told mum later in the evening, no hassle!
That’s friendship for ya’! And really convenient too. :) Sounds like a good way to start your period off!
Thanks for writing in! <3
(Also, I couldn’t figure out how to set up ask replies. :( )
-M
Q:I didn't get my first period until I was 14. I knew that I was going to get it sometime so I wasn't freaked out by it or anything, but it was still kind of scary to tell my mom. She was all right though and took me into her bathroom to give me some pads. My brother then burst in on us and my mom slammed the door in his face and told him we were talking about makeup xD I didn't have cramps at first but then two years later they showed up with a vengeance and I've had them on the first day since.
Anonymous
Brothers are priceless. So are dads, when it comes to periods. If I’m with one of them and need to go home/to the store, I can drop boulder size hints and it won’t be until later that they’re like “OH.”
I was the same way; I knew I was going to get it but telling my mom was the worst part. I didn’t have cramps the first time, but I did get an overwhelming nauseated/ill feeling but now get terrible cramps.
-C
I can’t figure out how to enable replies to our asks… Does anyone know if this is possible/how to do it?
Also, if anyone DOES want to address an ask, you can always head to the submit box and copy/paste the ask, then make your comments there, and we will publish. :)
-M
Q:Also is there some way you could please enable replies on your posts?
I think there is! Gimmee a sec and I will try and do so. c:
Q:My first period was the last day of sixth grade, which was also my 12th birthday. It was kind of horrifying. :(
Anonymous
:( Oh no! That’s not a pleasant way to have your birthday at all!
Thank you for sharing… I know a lot of people had horrifying, mortifying, and terrifying experiences with their first periods. So you’re not alone.
Also, now I am picturing some little twelve year old bawling their eyes out in a birthday hat…. :’(
-M
Q:Question on sex during one's period- I've found that I (cisfemale) lack proper lubrication during my period, and always need to add lube, when I don't when I'm not menstruating. I always find it weird because you'd think that with all that extra fluid going on, lubrication would be no problem. Is this typical?
This can definitely be a problem! I don’t quite know the science behind it, but I know that I am a lot drier during my period (although my boyfriend isn’t quite comfortable with period sex just yet, though I’m working on it…. I feel like he’d be better about it if we had opportunities to shower together so there was “less mess” in his eyes). I tend to notice it during self luvvin’ times.
Anyways, you are definitely normal, and your best fix is to just use more lube. :)
Also, sometimes when you become aroused on your period, your body will cut off the blood flow while you have sex, so there is actually LESS blood going on! Which could explain why the “extra fluid” isn’t really helping you out.
-M
Menstrual discharge also tends to be thinner than regular discharge, so there’s less of that ‘coating’ that makes sex go more smoothly.
-C
Q:my first period was the second day of 8th grade. i went home sick the day before because i felt weird. right before band i went to the bathroom and had blood in my underwear. i went and asked the band teacher if i could to go my mom's work, which was a block away. he said ask the office so i went to the third floor, talked to the secretary, then went to talk to the teacher again. then i ran to my mom's work and got a pad then went back to school.
Anonymous
That’s so cool that they let you go! :)
In the schools I’ve been in, if you have your period but no pads, they send you to the nurse to get one of those three inch thick super pads. D:
It’s nice that you didn’t have to call your mom for a pad, and could just run out.
Also, might I say that band kids are cool? (Avid band kid over here. ;o )
-M
Q:I have an embarrassing period story! So I was going to my second class and felt like I needed to change my pad so I first went to my class because I knew I didn't have enough time between classes. However, the class started off really busy and I was getting really paranoid. FINALLY I was able to take a break so ran to the bathroom and guess what? I had a nice sized stain on my jeans! I was mortified. I changed my pad and put on my long sweater because I was too embarrassed to call home. :)
Anonymous
D: At least you had the sweater!!
My most recent embarrassing period episode was while I was riding a horse…I rarely use pads but for some reason I did that day. Halfway through the lesson, I realized that sweat/the friction of the saddle had somehow managed to detach the pad and it was sliding around….a lot. So during the break I had to call my mom to bring tampons while my instructor kept asking me why I was waiting until my mom came to get back on the horse (in retrospect, I should have told her because she probably had tampons with her…).
-C
Q:I want to let you know as a person on the genderqueer spectrum I have been harassed just as much as you have been, and by people who supposedly "support" trans* or gender variant people. If anything really hurtful is said I want to let you know you're not alone. I personally don't find the laungauge problematic as I know trying to make every post trans* safe can confuse or scare young persons away that may need help. I highly doubt you meant anything hurtful in any post, and hope you are ok.
Anonymous
Thank you for this. :)
I was confused at the time, but now I understand how the things I said were trans*phobic, and I’ve learned from my mistakes.
Since the goal here is to be as safe as we possibly can for people, I’m glad that followers have a quick, straight up response whenever a post is wrong, offensive, or triggering.
I certainly didn’t mean to be hurtful, and I’m glad I was able to clear everything up. <3
I’m doing just fine, and I hope everyone involved in this is too!
-M
For y’all who don’t know, C is my best friend in real life.
Like, really.
I know everything about her.
It’s kind of weird.
But we’re okay with this.
Anyways, I’m hoping C will post more! :o
-M
By everything, she does mean everything.
It is a bit weird.
But it’s also funny because I know the same about her.
And it makes for some really. Strange. Conversations.
-C
