Anonymous said: I've been on the same (low dose) hormonal birth control for about 4 years, and my periods are usually like clockwork, but I haven't had one in about 2 months. I haven't changed my diet or sleep or anything, and I haven't had sex. Does that happen, and is it unhealthy to stop having periods?

I would definitely give your doctor a call (most docs have a nurse help line you can call), since it’s a sudden change. 

I don’t necessarily think it’s unhealthy and I know that plenty of people have their period to stop while on hormonal birth control, so I don’t think you need to rush to the ER.

But definitely check in with your doc!

Anonymous said: My period is about 2 weeks late but I've never had sex in my entire life. Im scared and nervous, what do I do?? :(

First off, take a deep breath! Getting really really upset about it isn’t good for you, although I understand why this is upsetting.

Many people experience irregular periods—especially young people. And things like stress, sudden weight loss or gain, recent dietary changes, etc can affect when your period does and doesn’t come. I would give it another week or so, and see if it comes. Sometimes people just skip whole periods, and that’s ok too.

If you are really worried, maybe you can call your doctor or go in for a doctor’s visit? 

Anonymous said: hello, i'm going to be quick because i'm kinda freaking out. i shouldn't get my period for another 6 days (i'm on the pill) and i've started bleeding. i've never spotted between periods before, and i've no idea if this is just spotting. the only issue is, earlier today i found a pill on my floor which means somewhere along the line i've somehow not taken a pill. i'm pretty worried, my boyfriend is being a dick about it and some advice would be lovely :( <3

Oh! First thing’s first, deep breath, because stressing won’t do you any good ok?

The way that the pill works, is that you take a certain number of days of full doses of hormones, and then you take a week of pills that are either significantly lower doses, or more often no doses at all (they are just placebo pills basically). The placebo week is basically a fake period, where your body has a sort of “withdrawal” bleeding because it’s no longer on the hormones. It’s not a real period.

This means that, if you miss a pill, it can totally trigger a “period”! That’s very likely what’s going on, and I bet everything is ok.

You can definitely call your doctor on Monday to double check, but I think you’ll be fine.

You also probably missed the pill sometime within the last few days, so I wouldn’t worry about pregnancy really. However, I would use a condom during sex within the next few weeks until you’ve gotten back on a solid cycle with the pill.

Although, I would like to know—why is your boyfriend being a jerk?! It’s totally not ok for him to be treating you poorly while this is happening. If you would like to talk more about that, let me know. Ok Anon?

I hope you’re doing ok. <3

Anonymous said: Is it okay to throw away a tampon (not the plastic applicator) in the toilet?

Well, I just looked it up for the first time ever, and the general consensus is that it’s not great to flush tampons. However, I always DID flush them and I’ve never had a problem.

Now I use a diva cup so I don’t have to deal with disposing the cotton.

You absolutely shouldn’t flush them if you have a septic tank system though!

Anonymous said: Why does it seem like when I use tampons my periods seem lighter than using pads? Is this normal or is this because the blood is being soaked because of the tampon

Some people do report heavier or lighter flows depending on the product. I don’t know about science behind it, but part of it could definitely be how the flow is being absorbed!






Best period-related ad ever? Best period-related ad ever.




It’s actually the worst period-related ad ever.
Not sure which rock these people grew up under, but it’s a known fact that women, or rather girls in this case, shouldn’t even be using tampons. It won’t hurt them, of course not, but OB-GYNS say you shouldn’t use them until you’ve had your first sexual experience. To be more specific: If you want your hymen to stay intact, don’t use a freaking tampon.

And how old is that girl again?! 11… 12, maybe?!… Yeah she’s not supposed to stick anything up her vagina at that age. 

This ad is just too wrong on too many levels for my liking.

Hold the phone. Listen here, fuckwit, how about you shut up and learn something about female anatomy before you go spouting off and making a fool of your damn self. The only reason doctors sometimes tell younger girls to wait to use tampons is that middle-school aged girls often aren’t responsible enough to remember to take out their tampons on time and not give themselves TSS.

And this irresponsible ass-hattery you’re pulling about the hymen? It’s a thin, elastic ring of tissue just inside the vagina. I repeat: A RING. You know what fucking rings have? Holes in the middle, shit-for-brains. If it wasn’t a ring, didn’t have a hole, how the fucking fuck did you think females had periods in the first place?! For almost all females, you can go right ahead and stick whatever the fuck you want up there—tampons, fingers, penises, cucumbers, glittery purple dildos, popsicles, what the christing fuck ever—and as long as you’re gentle and stretch it out slowly, your hymen will never tear. Or “pop”, if we’re using the fucked up misogynistic term for a god-awfully mistunderstood part of the female body.

Pull your head lout of your goddamn colon and learn a thing or two before you go fucking up a perfectly good post with you patriarchal-brainwashed bullshit. Please and thank you.


*people who have vaginas

cuz let’s be real not everyone who has a vagina is a woman/female ok?

other than that

(I would also like to remind, though, that many vagina-havers did experience tearing at the time of first penetration because they didn’t know that they needed to be gentle or careful)

Anonymous said: Hi! I'm a little nervous to ask this, but I've had my period since I was 9, and at 13 I want to try using tampons, sinc I'd like to go swimming and all that jazz in the summer. I'm just really really scared to, all my friends are telling me stories of how much it hurts, and it's uncomfortable. Yet I hear stories about others who find tampons these blessings from above. How do I know if it's deep enough? Heck, how do I get it in? Sorry if this seems silly! Thanks!

Hey! The first thing I’m gonna do, is direct you to my Tampon Troubleshooting Manual! I wrote it about a year ago, but it’s still relevant.

The second thing I’m gonna do, is tell you that everyone has a different experience with tampons. Some people hate them. Some people love them. Some people find them uncomfortable. Some people find them a blessing. I, for one, LOVE tampons (although I recently switched to a menstrual cup, which I love even more). But I have friends who hate them.

Don’t be scared, just relax and give it a shot. And if it’s not perfect on your first try, or you don’t like it, and have to stop, do so! You don’t HAVE to love tampons on the first try. 

As for your friends… If you are comfortable passing this advice along, tell them that it’s very possible they aren’t inserting the tampons far enough. It can be uncomfortable if the tampon is not in all the way!

Good luck Anon! Give my guide a shot, and then come ask me if you have any more questions. <3

Anonymous said: I've been using pads for about 5 years now. I hate them with a passion and I really, really want to start using tampons. As many girls find, however, I cannot. I just can't get the damn thing up there. Several times it has happened that once it gets to a certain point (or maybe after I've been trying too long) I start to feel incredibly light-headed, dizzy, my vision gets black and blurry, and I feel like I'm going to faint, which I've done before so I know what it feels like. (con't)

(con’t) The first time it happened I actually thought I was dying. It usually takes at least 10 minutes for me to even be able to see clearly again. Any time this DOESN’T happen, I just can’t get it up there. I feel like I’m not deep enough? I’ve tried EVERYTHING. Squatting, sitting, standing, coating it in Vaseline, “taking a deep breath” (trust me, I’m relaxed). I’ve never been to the gyno and I’m generally uncomfortable talking about this kind of thing. (con’t)

(con’t) I feel like I might have an unperforated hymen? But I feel silly assuming this. What else could be wrong with me? What do you think it is? I really really REALLY don’t want to go to the gyno…. But I also don’t want to have to use pads for the rest of my life. Also I *masturbate* so unless I’m doing that wrong, something here just doesn’t fit. Please help me!!!!

(same anon who just sent you three messages) Also I’m a virgin, if that makes a difference.

Oof. Anon, I am so sorry that you are having so much trouble with this. That sounds absolutely awful.

It really does sound like you have tried everything…. Which sucks so much, because it seems like you have taken every bit of advice out there. 

What would I suggest?

  1. right now while you aren’t on your period, squat on the floor in your room/bathroom (somewhere with good lighting) and angle the mirror and inspect your vagina—what do you see? do you see an opening? is it fully open? or is it only partially open?
  2. while still using the mirror, put a little bit of water-based lube on your finger (DON’T use vaseline! vaseline is a major no-no—you can get lube for cheap at Target or Wal-mart) and try inserting your finger
    **you might want to try this during a masturbation session/after a masturbation session (do you masturbate by vaginal penetration, or by clitoral stimulation? because the former would mean your hymen is not necessarily imperforate but the latter would leave that as an option)
    —how far can you get your finger inside?
    —if there is pain, where is it? around the labia? at the vaginal opening? just inside? really deep inside?
    —if you can get in without pain, feel around inside and get to know your insides

If you can easily insert a finger or two without pain, then that’s a sign that this is purely period related and likely not a problem with your hymen. Most people have hymens that stretch (although not everyone does—I couldn’t insert super sized tampons or fingers because of my hymen until after it ripped my first time).

If the pain is deeper inside, and you feel like it’s an issue where you can’t insert the tampon because your vagina is not deep enough, it could be a situation of your cervix changing position and making it hard for you to insert. The cervix changes from hard to soft throughout the cycle, and it also moves position (higher up is during ovulation, I believe, and lower down post ovulation) but it also changes position depending on sexual arousal. That’s how things like penises can fit into vaginas—they change length depending on arousal.

As for other things that could be going on? Here’s an ask I answered on that a few weeks ago! (Not that I want to redirect you or anything, but all of that pretty much seems to apply here).

There are alternatives to the disposable pads in the store actually, although they can be a little scary when you first think about them. Re-useable pads! They are really scary, I know, but I’ve heard really good things about them. For the time being, while you figure out what’s going on that is preventing you from using tampons, you might want to try out re-useable pads. No insertion required but definitely more comfortable (I hear they breathe better than plastic-y pads from the store). I can’t use pads either because they make my crotch break out, and I am going to invest in a few of these (I recently started using a menstrual cup, but was previously using tampons exclusively).

One other thing you can try is getting different brands of tampons. Compact tampons (like Tampax Compaks) can be easier to handle and insert. Those were the first tampons I had real success with (because they aren’t so long and awkward). My favorite tampon brand, though, is OB tampons! I’ve been using them for about 3 years and they are so much easier. They aren’t as long, they don’t have an applicator, and they are super easy to insert.

As always, though, I am gonna say that seeing a gynecologist is a good idea here. Or even just asking a general practitioner. I know it’s really scary, but it’s something that you are gonna have to learn…. Especially if you become sexually active, it’s really important to be able to go talk to a gyno (and ask for things like STD testing and such). It’s a part of having to deal with a vagina and vaginal help.

I know it’s really scary…… I actually have my first real gyno visit (to deal with my own vaginal pain) coming up in two weeks. I can tell you, even being someone who is comfy with talking about my vagina and what’s happening down-town, I am STILL super nervous and scared.

If you want, I can give you some tips on making a gyno appointment and talking with/seeing a gyno. Ok? It’s scary but it’s definitely do-able, and this might be a situation where you need to do it.

Go ahead and give my advice a shot, and then maybe come back and tell me how it goes. I can help you, and I’m always here for you Anon (even if I am out of town, and having trouble getting the chance to respond).

You got this, ok? <3

confessionsofayoungadultfemale said: This might be dumb, but I was wondering. I got my period when I was quite young, and it came with no real symptoms except cramps, but now ten years later, I have all sorts of symptoms. Crazy mood swings, cravings, etc., I was curious, can period symptoms change as you get older? Or is it all in my head?

Hey! I am SO sorry that this took so long for me to get to. I’ve been out of town and unexpectedly did not have Internet. And I was with my partner so taking the time to type via mobile was not ideal.

It’s completely normal for period symptoms to change over time! And no question is dumb. :)
Periods can change for many reasons—dietary changes, weight loss/gain, stress levels, even just aging, medications…..
I, myself, have had constantly changing periods and symptoms, even varying from cycle to cycle (for instance, last cycle I cried for two weeks solid prior to my period, and experienced cramps a week before, and then had no cramps and no emotional swings once the period started… The cycle before that I was a little emotional but was laid up in bed with cramps the day my period arrived).

The major concerns come in when a period changes nature abruptly…. For instance, you are on time like a clock for years, 28 days apart, 5 day long periods, etc and all of a sudden your periods are erratic, appearing randomly, major increase in blood flow, cramps, length, etc.
If they have changed more gradually, though, then it’s likely nothing major.

If they did change abruptly, I would suggest you see a doctor for it specifically (either general doctor or a gyno) and talk to them. Otherwise, if you are concerned/curious, mention it at your next doctor’s appointment!

Hope I could help, and again, so sorry for the lateness.

Anonymous said: Hi, I've just been wondering, can you explain why period posts need a TW? I don't know and am genuinely curious! Thank you!

Hey Anon! No worries whatsoever. :) 

I tag periods for a number of reasons. Some women are horribly uncomfortable with their own periods (they might be very painful, or the woman might have a phobia of blood, for example) so they like to block the period tags so they don’t have to see and be triggered by period stuff.

The main reason, however, is that not all people who have periods are women (trans men and people who are of non-binary genders have periods too!). So some people are very, VERY triggered into dysphoria by period discussion.

I generally expect followers to know that this blog is about periods, but I don’t always know where my posts will end up, and I like to make sure they are thoroughly tagged so as not to trigger!

Here are some period facts for you because I’m miserable


Right now, my ovaries are literally cutting off their own blood supplies.  They are trying to commit suicide. That is what cramps really are.  

Before tampons and pads, a woman would sit on a stack of hay in a hut with other women on their periods because it was indecent to bleed around men.

In earlier Christianity, women would be denied communion during menstrual cycles.

Women will spend approximately 35,000 days on my period in my lifetime.

The Romans attribute the deformity of Vulcan to the menstrual intercourse of his parents, Juno and Jupiter.

Menstruation may have led to humanity’s sense of time as most lunar calendars were based on the length of a woman’s menstrual cycle.

Menstrual blood was thought to cure warts, birthmarks, gout, goiters, hemorrhoids, epilepsy, worms, leprosy, and headaches. It was also used in love charms, could ward off demons, and was occasionally used as an offering to a god. The first napkin worn by a virgin was thought to be a cure for the plague.

The egg is the largest human cell in the body and can be seen with the naked eye.

At one point in history, women who complained of cramps were sent to psychiatrists because they were seen as a rejection of one’s femininity.

Ancient Egyptians used softened papyrus as rudimentary tampons. Hippocrates notes that the Greeks used lint wrapped around wood. The modern tampon was invented by Dr. Earle Haas in 1929, which was called a “catamenial device” or “monthly device.” He trademarked the brand name Tampax.

Nicknames for a menstrual period include Aunt Flo, On the Rag, I’m at a Red Light, Surfing the Crimson Tide, Checked into Red Roof Inn, Curse of Dracula, Leak Week, My Dot, and Monthly Oil Change.

The Mae Enga people of Papua New Guinea believe that contact with menstrual blood or a menstruating woman will “sicken a man and cause persistent vomiting.” It will also “kill his blood so that it turns black, dull his wits, and lead to a slow death.”

The same chemicals that cause uterine contractions during menstruation also cause the lower intestine to contract as well, which can lead to diarrhea.

In many cultures, a fetus was thought to be formed in the womb by clotting menstrual blood.

In some parts of India, a woman indicates she is menstruating by wearing a handkerchief around her neck stained with her menstrual blood.

Scholars suggest that as matriarchy gave way to patriarchy, menstrual blood taboos were used by men to control women and, consequently, menstrual blood was interpreted away from something powerful to a “disgusting” waste product that had no role in the reproductive process.

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When a tampon is inserted, its composition of rayon and cotton absorbs your vagina’s protective fluid, drying out and disrupting its normal pH levels. A menstrual cup has 3 times the capacity greater than the absorbency of a Super tampon.


When a tampon is inserted, its composition of rayon and cotton absorbs your vagina’s protective fluid, drying out and disrupting its normal pH levels. A menstrual cup has 3 times the capacity greater than the absorbency of a Super tampon.

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Anonymous said: I'm scared to use a tampon for the first time! Any tips?

Hey there anon, 

Don’t be scared! Using a tampon is nothing to worry about—the most important thing is to relax and take your time. Don’t get discouraged if you can’t get it right on the first try. Trust your body— stop if the tampon feels uncomfortable or if it starts to hurt!

We wrote up a whole post on using tampons for the first time. Check out our FAQ page for a video and step-by-step instructions for first-timers!

[EDIT: here’s the link for the tampon troubleshooting manual. check it out!]

take care,