Firstly: Don’t be embarrassed about buying something from a shop. They sell that kind of stuff for a reason and you’re not the first person those cashiers have had to ring up a vibrator for. You could start with Spencer’s—it’s not a ‘sex shop’ per se so it’s less intimidating. I’ve never had a problem buying those things aside from giggling fits over oddly squishy dildos. 

But, there are actually quite a few things you can use at home. A hairbrush handle is one idea, especially if you can cover it with a lubed condom. Detachable shower-heads are good, and so is just the bath faucet. 

If you have an iPhone, there are actually vibrator apps. Yes, seriously. They aren’t brilliant, but hey, not the worst invention thought up. Electric toothbrush handles make decent vibrators as well.

Before you put anything in there, make sure the object is CLEAN. And be sure to clean it afterwards, too.

-C

If you don’t have a credit/debit card of your own, you could try purchasing a gift card from AMEX/Mastercard/Visa with cash and making your online purchases that way. If you’re worried about privacy (and you know that your parents won’t open your packages without your permission), look for companies that ship their stuff in unmarked packages. 

If you must go the DIY dildo route, keep these things in mind:

- Things that are porous (e.g. wood, handbrushes) and that can’t be boiled easily should always be covered with a condom. (This goes for DIY toys as well as store-bought vibes and dildos you can’t clean all that well.)

- Do not insert anything without a large flared base into your anus. I really, really don’t recommend DIY toys for anal penetration, as manufactured toys are specifically designed to not get lost in your anus. (Imagine having to go to the emergency room because of this…be careful!)

- No pointed or sharp edges. Ever.

- No brittle/breakable things, as you can cut yourself or they can break off inside of you. There are some pretty good glass dildos out there, but they’re generally made out of special, super-durable Pyrex. (Ice is an exception, but you should still be very careful of pointed/sharp edges.)

- Some people use fruit/vegetables. If you go this route, wash them well, peel if necessary and wrap those up in a condom to prevent infections. 

- Be careful with temperature play, and please don’t put freezing cold metal on exposed skin. A good rule: if it’s too hot for the skin on the inner part of your wrist to handle, then it’s probably gonna hurt you!

- Showerheads, faucets and jacuzzi jets (which are amazing, thank you very much) are awesome, but directing the jet of water directly into the opening of your vagina can cause damage. Try directing the water towards your clit, mons, perineum or anus.

Let us know if you have any more questions!

~ k